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Saying Goodbye to a Piece of My Heart
I didn’t think my heart would break all over again. How can it be just as hard to say goodbye the second time around? Harder actually.
“Why are you so clingy?” the voice of my inner Soviet general says. “She’s eighteen years old and she’s lucky to be able to go back to school. You have to get over it. Your job has been to raise her and to let her go.”
I’m momentarily shamed.
Then, I get angry. “Shut up! I have every right to feel this way. Humans are designed to stick together, in communities, in clans. Especially with their loved ones. Especially with their babies. It’s a recent societal trend that kids go off and don’t stay close to home. In many societies today, families still live near each other. It’s the way it was meant to be.”
I know I’m right.
There’s little consolation in being right.
My first-born will be leaving us this week to take four flights from Florida to Armenia, where she will be completing her last year of high school at a United World Colleges school. It’s the continuation of an amazing opportunity. She is so lucky to be able to get together (after quarantining and being tested for COVID) with two hundred-plus kids from ninety-five countries. They will be locked down on a huge campus in the mountains near Dilijan, learning, hanging out, deepening friendships which will probably last a lifetime.
I’m so happy for her and I’m so sad at the same time.
But I still worry.
This is my opportunity to learn to trust the Universe at a deeper level. To be flexible and nimble. To see opportunities and possibilities in everything that happens around me. To flow with life.
I also realize that I have some control in all of it.
I desperately want to feel that way again.
I’m challenging myself to increase my meditation time to one hour a day, starting today.
I feel an immediate sense of inner peace and a tiny bit of control return in an uncontrollable world.
I close my eyes and settle into the silence within.
All I have to do is focus on this breath and the next one and the next one.
As my teacher Thich Nhat Hahn says “I have arrived. I’m home.”
What about you? Have you had to say goodbye to your kids as they went off into the world? How was the experience for you? How did you cope?
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