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Are You Controlling Those You Love and You Don’t Even Know It?
I couldn’t believe that after three decades of personal transformation work, I still fell in the trap.
I was controlling others and not taking true responsibility for myself.
It was a big realization.
But what did it actually mean?
I’m not overtly controlling.
My tendency is to let people be.
I don’t ask a lot of questions. I’m not suspicious.
And yet I practice subtle control.
Instead of taking full responsibility for my feelings.
Learning how to do this is revolutionizing my relationships, especially my relationship with myself.
I feel even more centered, grounded in myself, powerful, joyful and loving.
I made this video for you in the hope that it will help you too.
I love connecting with you! Leave a comment below or send me an email at natalie@nataliematushenko.com.
Happy Tuesday!
xoxo,
Natalie
I can really relate to this!! I usually call it being passive aggressive, but you nailed it completely! It’s a very important part of self-care to take responsibility for my own actions and feelings. Thank you for sharing this important information!
hi Natalie,
It is hard to imagine a gentle, soft spoken person like you having a challenge lie that. As for me, I recognize what you are saying about the potential of controlling people and not even knowing it. It comes down to clarity not just saying these things , but also knowing not to attach too much importance to the unexpected outcome. It is hard just to let it go, after all the other person wasn’t daydreaming along with oneself, but had other things happen to change the outcome. That person is not ourselves. We need to allow them space, and we need not replace this outcome with anything else. Lately I have been able to let it go, and just go on doing something else that needs my attention. Now it is easy, no resentment.
Actually, trying to coexist with a control-freak.
Not sure if it’s ppssible. Tiresome for sure.
Thank you. After many years of Personal Growth and Development continued work, this Resonates with me. Lots of my own inner child work of 73 years of storage and a 55 year marriage of 2 unlike people who did the right thing. I’m fortunate to have a son who is trained in dispute resolutions and atv54 he’s had professional help that he has shared with me. Like using “I statements” and getting in touch with my feelings (this is a new process on unstoring for me). I saw myself in your share as I listened today. I appreciate your words, and I will listen again. Thank you
Thank you, your speaking to a mirror ! I also feel that working on my self there is an ongoing growth that needs to uplevel in awareness to ourselves. One lesson I did not learn well is one with my self ownership all inclusive!
Thanks for your commitment and once again how do you Care if you don’t have any things that make you survive and no one is ready to help and without money how do we get there? Please I need your help.thanks.