§ We came to this world to LIVE OUT LOUD!
From Trapped to Freedom
I wanted to quiet down all of the voices around me that were clamoring for my time and attention so I could hear the still, quiet voice of my own soul.
At this point, I had been coaching clients for over a decade and I knew that behind every strong desire is an important need that needs to be addressed. I was not in the position to fulfill my desire but I knew that I had to uncover the need.
The need was actually quite simple: I needed time and space to go within.
I changed. I was calmer and way more centered and peaceful. I was able to be more present in the moment. I remember spending a good thirty minutes mindfully observing a bug in the grass with my two-year old. I was just as into it as she was.
As I sat there meditating for hours every day, I started noticing how most of my thoughts were repetitive and not particularly supportive. I uncovered the underlying beliefs and worked to transform them into more empowering ones.
I learned how to simply sit with very painful emotions and just let them be without trying to change them. I was practicing Radical Acceptance as Tara Brach called it
I became much more sensitive to energy and started noticing the people or experiences that drained my energy. I started saying “yes” to what I really wanted and “no” to what I really didn’t want. I renegotiated many implicit agreements in my marriage and my close relationships. Some relationships fell by the wayside but the ones that stayed in my life became truer and stronger.
My entire life changed for the better. All because I honored my strong desire and more importantly, the underlying need.
I was falling in love with myself and with my life.
So what about you? What’s the desire that is burning within you? And what’s the need underlying need it is trying to convey?
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