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Changing the Game of Love

Feb 1, 2018


Ever wonder why romantic partnerships are so hard? Why it’s all great when you fall in love and then “reality hits”?

My husband and I have been together for 24 years (yikes!). We love each other fiercely and we think we have a soulful partnership AND it has been REALLY, REALLY HARD at times.

We have done tons of work and no longer have the crazy fights that drove us to therapy, individual and couples, many years ago.

But it’s far from perfect….

Our big issue has been communication. I wasn’t brought up in a family where feelings were expressed cleanly and openly. They were acted out, often passive aggressively or just plain aggressively.

My husband didn’t have great communication skills either.

So we have had to work really hard to express our feelings and assume positive intent on the part of the other instead of getting triggered and pissed off right off the bat.

It has been a practice and it took us many years and tons of personal growth work to get this piece right. Today, we’re pretty darn good at it most of the time.

But if we’re stressed or didn’t sleep enough, we can start slipping in our old habits.

You can say, it’s a work-in-progress. Luckily, we now have the tools to get back on track super fast (some of which I shared with you last week and in my conversation with Arielle Ford.)

And this week, I have even more great relationship tools for you on WOMEN LIVING PASSIONATELY: Honest Conversations with Amazing Women Who Are Living Their Passions and Purpose, with my straight-talking, unedited conversation with Dr. Isabell Springer, a marriage and relationship therapist who refuses to let you settle.

I met Isabelle last year and we hit it off right away. I was so impressed by Clarity: The New Model for Love, Isabell’s program and assessment tool to help us become aware of our own and our partner’s emotional maturity in relationships. Her 20-min video on what you need to know to choose the right life partner is a must see for anybody who is contemplating getting into a relationship or isn’t fully content in their current one.

I’m going to make sure my girls see it BEFORE they start dating.

In our conversation, Isabell talks about how her early childhood difficulties and then subsequent dissolution of her marriage led to her finding her purpose. She also shares some important advice about what it takes to create a healthy, mature relationship.

You can sign up to watch or listen to the interview here.

Happy Tuesday!



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