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The #1 Thing I Contributed to the Breakdown of My Marriage
Ending a 30-year relationship is never easy.
The end of my marriage brought me to my knees.
I let myself feel it all – the grief, the pain, the anger, the hopelessness.
I also knew somewhere deep inside that what was happening was for my highest good.
I knew that while I had every right to feel all that I was feeling, I also needed to learn as much as possible from what was happening – because what we don’t learn from, just repeats itself.
And I certainly don’t want to repeat the past couple of years!
What I know for sure, is nothing is ever one sided in relationships. Whatever happens, both parties contribute to, in one way or another.
I procrastinated for a while and then I took many deep breaths and began the arduous journey of taking a long, hard look at myself and what I did to contribute to the breakdown of my marriage.
It wasn’t easy. On many levels, I wanted to be the victim. The one without fault.
But it doesn’t work that way. I too played a role in what had happened.
I made this video to share with you what I believe was the #1 thing I did to contribute the breakdown of my marriage and what I learned and how I grew as a result. My hope is that my experience can serve you in some way as well.
I love connecting with you! Leave a comment below or send me an email at natalie@nataliematushenko.com.
Happy Thursday!
xoxo,
Natalie
My husband is this way, he is a deeply wounded child who gets so reactive with everyday minor triggers. Can you please make a video with advice on this: what to do when your partner is this way and you want to help them and keep the relationship. I need to mention that my husband is on therapy for almost 2 decades!
Hi,
Thanks for getting in touch. I know it’s so difficult to support somebody (and to live with somebody) who gets easily triggered. I will definitely make a video about this for next week… but have him look into Margaret Paul’s Inner Bonding Work. And also write me privately and I have some more suggestions for you.
Hello Natalie,
I have been enjoying your posts, your videos for quite some time. Thank you for sharing this one. I am looking forward to the next one in which you will talk about ways to respond when you do become triggered. I am wishing you all the very best as you continue to navigate this new world cooperating with your ex-husband. Your willingness to share your wisdom is greatly appreciated.
Thanks Deborah for your support. One of my life’s mottos is “when life hands you lemons, make lemonade” and being able to share whatever I learn from all this is my way of being of service and making lemonade. I made a mistake and shared the video on how I deal with trigger this past week in my latest post so check it out.