Was one of your resolutions this year to make your marriage or romantic partnership better?
To make it more connected, fun, intimate?
To turn your mate into your soulmate?
My marriage is pretty darn strong now. It’s not perfect but we love and respect each other, have tons of fun together, talk about everything under the sun and stay connected in the midst of the chaos that raising three kids and managing two careers can be.
Sure, he drives me crazy at least once every day and I certainly drive him nuts… but we have learned to let go of the small stuff (mostly!) and appreciate each other and our differences.
And I can tell you it wasn’t always that way…
When my husband and I moved in together 24 years ago (Yaooza!), neither of us had the skills to communicate lovingly and effectively. Neither of us had seen it done before. We are both strong people and we hung on to our beliefs about how things should be and fought for them as though we were fighting for our lives. There was so much drama and passion in those early years.
Then our careers kicked into high gear, the kids came along and we were sleepwalking through our lives, constantly grumbling about who was doing more and who was more overwhelmed and exhausted.
Something had to change.
We were both doing tons of healing and personal growth work and yet we were constantly triggering each other. Those were really tough years and I often wondered if this whole marriage thing was for me.
I’m so happy that we stuck with it though because we would have lost out on so much growth and learning, not to mention the beauty of love made deeper and stronger by the struggle of learning how to relate to each other lovingly.
There were so many teachers and therapists who we turned to on our journey and one of the ones that really stands out is Arielle Ford, whose book Wabi Sabi Love taught us how to find the beauty and gifts in each other’s imperfections. It taught us how to embrace our differences and have fun with our human failings.
It literally changed the concept of love for me from something that we need to feel at all times to something that we do as a personal growth and spiritual practice.
And everything started to change for the better…
I can’t even begin to tell you what an honor it is to have Arielle Ford as a guest this week on WOMEN LIVING PASSIONATELY: Honest Conversations with Women Who Are Living Their Passion and Purpose.
Arielle is a love and relationship expert and a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 25 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a speaker and the producer and host of Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love series as well as the author of 11 books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest the Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction.
This is so special for me, not only because Arielle is one of my “sheroes” but because her knowledge and practical wisdom about love and relationships know no bounds. There is literally a golden nugget in every minute of this conversation.
You can sign up to watch or listen to our conversation here.
This is such a rare opportunity to learn from Arielle in such an intimate and personal setting as she and I have a heart-to-heart talk about turning your mate into your soul mate. Don’t miss this!
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